Session 9 - A New Psychology
How do we mend and correct ourselves to enable us to live a good life, and for it to be pleasant and safe? Because if we don't do this, we can already see that the world is treading along toward mass unemployment, crises in family life, education, and in daily life in general. We've come to a point where our mutual insensitivity and our lack of understanding one another have become crucial.
Today the whole of humanity is like one great global human family, but one that is in a very serious condition. This is why we recommend "domestic peace" (reconciliation) made through an external factor.
When there's a problem between couples, often a professional counselor, psychologist, or therapist, talks to them in order to help reconcile a good connection between them. These days, many people regularly consult therapists, and it has become an accepted trend. Marriage counselors talk to one member of the couple, or sometimes to both of them together, and they facilitate the ability for the couple to talk between themselves. A counselor may ask questions or provide answers, but in the end, s/he assists the couple in opening up to one another and in starting to communicate again in healthy ways that include making mutual concessions, while helping them to understand themselves and the good connection they have with one another. In this way, eventually each will realize that it is best to compromise, and to not let out everything that s/he holds against the other. Thus, people learn to forgive and accept what they see as opposite, and what they maybe don't like about their partners. In this regard, there is an ancient, yet beautifully true maxim, "Love covers all transgressions."
We must understand that our "crimes" come from Nature, and that we are actually all selfish egoists who lack mutual consideration, especially when it comes to our family and with our children, in commerce, with food choices, housing choices, and in every realm of daily life. Because of this nature, we are constantly seeking for what is the best and the most safe for ourselves,in everything. If we can truly understand all that, that this is how our nature operates, we will more easily find the method to help us connect to one another.
The therapeutic psychological method says, "Let's talk to one another; let's be more open and share more; let's come to know each other better; let's learn about our nature and our characters." These same relational sensitivities should also be applied among the nations of our world. Therefore, let's not be ashamed of who we are and admit, like intelligent adults, that this is, in fact, who we really are. And then above all of this, we can build the mutual relationships between us consciously, and in a good, loving, and giving direction.
We shouldn't oppress or admonish anyone for who they are, because in truth, we all have our faults. And yet, we can conciously build connections above all of this because "Love covers all transgressions." Once we come to realize that there are transgressions inside each and every one of us, we can then make conscious efforts in concession making and gradually , out of love, we can stop seeing the transgressions altogether.
It's much like a mother's attitude toward her own child. In her eyes, her child is the most beautiful and is the best child in the world. She is incapable of finding anything wrong with him/her because she is blinded by her love, and can see only the good things and not the bad things in her child.
But if you asked her about the neighbor's child, she would tell you the exact opposite—she mostly sees the bad half and not the good half—since she has no natural love for the neighbor's child. Yet if she loved that child, too, she would see only the good in him/her, as well.
Life demonstrates these things to us. Even if we point out a characteristic or behavior that is negative in a mother's child, she will not accept it. Either she will justify her child entirely and say that the behavior is justified, or she will simply not agree that such a negative attribute exists in her child. She really cannot see it, and that's the meaning of love covering all transgressions. This is the mutual guarantee that we all need to come to with one another, and this is how we come to it.
We can achieve a mutual guarantee between us, which we must all come to, only if we begin to connect among us. We will first begin from afar, studying everything we need to learn about ourselves, but from the outset of this learning process, it will be only with the aim to build a bond of love between us, above our transgressions. Meaning from the beginning, we have to start preparing to make concessions between us, because that is the only way we will be able to unite on the emotional level, and truly feel close to one another. The world will certainly be a safer, calmer place this way. In such a state, we will no longer be afraid to let our children be out by themselves at night, because every stranger will care for them as much as we do, and we will also care for others in the same way.
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It is up to all of us to be more aware and in touch with the differences between us, and above these differences, to build a connection of love.
- All of us are connected like one great global human family, together found in crisis.
- Domestic peace can be reached through assistance from a third party, like through a psychologist who uses methodologies that will help us connect.
"This crippling of individuals I consider the worst evil of capitalism. Our whole educational system suffers from this evil. An exaggerated competitive attitude is inculcated into the student, who is trained to worship acquisitive success as a preparation for his future career. I am convinced there is only one way to eliminate these grave evils, namely through the establishment of a socialist economy, accompanied by a educational system which would be oriented toward social goals. In such an economy, the means of production are owned by society itself and are utilised in a planned fashion. A planned economy, which adjusts production to the needs of the community, would distribute the work to be done among all those able to work and would guarantee a livelihood to every man, woman and child. The education of the individual, in addition to promoting his own innate abilities, would attempt to develop in him a sense of responsibility for his fellow-men in place of the glorification of power and success in our present society." (Albert Einstein, 1949, On Education)spaceandmotion.com quotes
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